Did you know that Life Itself involves using a mental sandwich to maintain balance and that you can use this to promote balance in your kids lives? The four parts of this mental sandwich are: part work, part play, part serious thinking, and part restful enjoyment. You can teach it to them with great benefit! Although having a balanced life is splendid for kids, it also extends to all they do in their lives. Back in the 1980s, I worked for a man who started a business in his basement.
Over the course of his working life, he built that business up to the point where he eventually sold the business for over $220 million dollars. He had to sell the business because although he had five children, not one of them was capable of running the business. In fact, none of them was capable of working. They'd grown up having everything handed to them. Having money is great.
Can you have too much? It's a trick question. Having too much isn't the issue. Although the family was blessed with an abundance of money, that ended up being a problem, with the underlying issue being an inability to balance life's challenges.
The family was all about money and not much of anything else. What if, with all that money, he would have made them get jobs, earn things, work hard? A more balanced life for each of them would have resulted. Another example of an unbalanced life follows: I used to work with a successful lawyer who, when he hit 50, became depressed. He had three children who were all off to college, and he told me he really didn't know them because the entire time they were growing up, he had been in meetings. He would work Monday through Friday until 9:00 at night.
He would often work on Saturdays and Sundays. Being a success in your career is not a sin, but my friend lacked the skill of creating balance between his life and his work. His career was all that mattered. He would never agree with that, and his actions spoke louder than his words. Whatever your children like to do, whether it's swimming, soccer or science projects, encourage them to work really hard at it, but then, teach them to walk away from it.
If you teach your kids to take a break after they push really hard, they'll gain a long-distance perspective on it. When you teach your kids the four parts of the mental sandwich of life, they can then use those laws to govern balance in their work for school, in the careers they'll end up in, and in their relationships - ultimately all the things that make their lives healthy, filled with joy, success and satisfaction. The key to a balanced life is using all four parts of the mental sandwich.
Len Stauffenger's parents taught him life's simple wisdom. As a divorced dad, he wanted to share that simple wisdom with his girls. "Getting Over It: Wisdom for Divorced Parents", his book, is the solution. Len is a Reiki Master, an author, a Success Coach and an Attorney. http://www.wisdomfordivorcedparents.com
ARTICLES